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5 Signs He’s Not the Guy For You
Is he committed to your relationship? Not if you’re seeing these red flags.
-Carolyn French

When it comes to relationships, the Queen of Soul, Aretha Franklin, summed it up best. It all boils down to one very important thing: R-E-S-P-E-C-T.
As any good couples therapist will tell you, the “R-word” is crucial for a serious, committed relationship; without it, you’re on a dead-end road. How do you know which direction you’re headed in? When it comes right down to it, his actions almost always speak louder than his words.
Here, five signs your guy may not be in it for the long haul:
1. He’s not thinking about the future.
Planning ahead, or at least having some general goals, is the key to a stable and satisfying life, as well as a stable and satisfying relationship.
“Most people go into a relationship with some idea of what they want out of it,” explains Minneapolis-based relationship expert Cami Zimmer. “In order for a relationship to be satisfying, partners must set clear goals that both partners can agree on.”
And those goals don’t have to be all about you or the relationship to be illuminating. For example, if your guy doesn’t seem to care about finding or hanging onto a decent job, or has no clue about where he wants to be in 10 years, chances are a serious, long-term relationship isn’t on his to-do list, either.
2. He goes MIA on special occasions.
When you’re a couple, certain events — birthdays, anniversaries, career-related events — require extra attention.
It’s no secret that guys can be forgetful creatures (though ask any man when World Series tickets are going on sale and he’ll probably rattle off the exact time and date in two seconds flat), but you shouldn’t have to remind him twice when your birthday is – or worry that he won’t show up when he promised to escort you to a super important work event.
“Missing things every once in a while is fine, but when it happens all the time, it means that his priorities don't include you,” says Zimmer.
3. He enjoys keeping you guessing.
When it comes to being secure in your relationship, a little reassurance goes a long way. From offering up his plans without being asked, to calling just to say hi, sometimes it’s the simplest things that give us the most confidence in our significant other.
But if you find that you’re wondering what he’s up to on a regular basis — he gets vague whenever you ask, or you feel like you have to play 20 Questions just to get a straight answer — you’re probably right to start wondering just how far you can trust him.
“It’s not usually the big things that come between a couple and make closeness dissipate; it’s the lack of communication on the little things that build, getting bigger and bigger until the relationship starts to fizzle,” says Zimmer. “Relationships are all about give and take.”
4. His generosity — financially and otherwise — leaves a lot to be desired.
These days it’s usually a good sign when your guy is careful with his money. But there’s a big difference between cautious and stingy — especially when that stinginess seems to play a larger-than-life role in your relationship.
We all have different beliefs about money, but when you’re part of a couple it’s important to establish a healthy open dialogue regarding financial matters. If he doesn’t think twice about splurging on a fishing trip with the guys or buying himself that cool new gadget, but he regularly borrows your car without refilling the tank, or has to be coerced into taking you out to dinner at a nice restaurant, consider yourself warned: It’s time to talk — and maybe even walk.
“Money can't buy you love, but it sure can tear it apart,” says Zimmer. “Because talking about finances can be uncomfortable, many couples keep quiet about this important topic — which is a huge mistake.”
5. He prefers hanging out with his buddies.
Boys-only clubs typically lose their appeal by the age of 10. But straight males who insist on constantly running off with their male friends past the age of puberty are guaranteed to bring you heartache.
It’s healthy for men to want to occasionally spend time with their buddies, but when you find yourself left out in the cold on a regular basis, it’s hard not to feel like you’re competing for his attention.
“Give him an opportunity to explain himself and hear what he has to say,” proposes Zimmer. “Is it that the two of you don't have much in common? Suggest doing things together that he enjoys — or try to find some new common ground. But if it becomes clear that he’d rather be single and free than with you, it’s time to move on.”
Men can be fickle creatures, but don’t allow your feelings for them to overshadow what’s really going on. Take heed, and know when it’s time to let go.
Tell us: Do you find it hard to walk away from a bad relationship?
Carolyn French is an editorial assistant at BettyConfidential.