Sunday, October 28, 2012

Sorry Always Seems...

Sorry always seems to be the hardest word.  ~Beth Corbin

The difference between the animal kingdon and people is that animals love and respect our differences...men and women have trouble understanding this!

Men apologize less frequently than women because they have a higher threshold for what constitutes offensive behavior.  Men have more "ego" and the more a man's personality is narcissistic the more they don't "feel" (sorry) as a form of regret; those men feel sorry more in terms of meaning “useless or pitiful,” and wont apologize much.

So ladies don't take it personal if he doesn't apologize as much as we women do; it's the way he is wired.

Many men also take it for granted that their wife or significant other knows they are loved by him.  He has really not done anything harmful in his mind to prove otherwise.  So, why would you get the notion that he doesn't love you?  He will tell the children he loves them, but may in fact feel silly telling you, because you are not a kid.

The truth is sometime with certain personality types, you have to tell your man what you expect of him.  What is it that makes you feel comfortable?  Ask him if he can do it.  If he says, “yes, I can do it,” ask him if he will do it. 

Some men and women do not instinctively know that you need hugs, kisses, touch, and how that enhances the relationship with endorphins that make you feel good and healthy.  They may have other sensory issues or were rewired as a result of their childhood.  There are many reasons; all people can learn.

There are some exceptions to every rule of course and there are some very sensitive men out there who are a great find indeed and will just know to touch you more, hug you more and say I love you more.  To those men my hat is off to you!  To everyone else it is admirable that you are willing to communicate and learn as you go; carry on my friend!