Low-Carb Life-Style Cheat Sheet

Low Carb Lifestyle Cheat Sheet

Do space your food choices throughout the day so you are eating 4-6 times a day.  For those that can’t start with low carbs every day; try it 4 times a week and your regular way 2-3 times a week; just do what you can do.

Key/What you can/can’t have:           No -- Yes + Moderation ~	Eat 100-150 grams of Carbs if you are already lean and have an active lifestyle
+ Exercise several times a week; whatever you can do:  Example, walk, yoga…	Eat 50-100 grams of Carbs if you are not very active with daily exercise.
+  Drink 8 or more cups of water a day:  30 minutes prior to eating reduces appetite	Eat 20-50 grams of Carbs if you are a diabetic or are obese, or need to lose weight fast
+  Sleep 8 or more hours a night, whatever is right for you	+  Use Sea Salt, herbs/spice to your liking to season foods

+  Whole/unprocessed Foods
+  All the green vegetables you can stand
+  Meat, Fish/Seafood, Eggs
+  Dairy
+  Nuts
+  Fruit

+  Healthy Fats/Oils:  Coconut, Olive, Butter, Lard, Tallow

~  Oats

~  Rice

~  Quinoa

--Added sugar

--Artificial Sweetener

--Soda Pop

--Processed foods

Family Justice and Divorce

Family Justice and Divorce

by Beth Barnett

I am talking to a grandparent today who asks, “Why am I so blessed to receive custody of my grandchildren when their parents are in jail for drugs and all their crazy behavior?”  I told her I use to wonder myself why the court system would give children to a grandparent who couldn’t get it right the first time... 

The answer (I think), is to give them another try to undo the damage they did in the first place.  I am not saying this to be judgmental; really feel they are given a chance to right a wrong.  The scary thing is if they couldn’t raise a well-rounded young adult the first time, what makes the judge think they can do it now?

Speaking of our family justice system:  There are so many things that still need improvement, but on the upside of things… We have come such a long way. 

For example, back in the eighties and maybe the very early nineties if your parent’s divorced mom received the kids, end of story and no matter how crappy of a mother she was… They never took the kids away from unfit mothers unless she just abandoned them.

Dad only received every-other-weekend visitation; was required to pay child support to the mom who probably did whatever with the payments (usually not spending it on the kids)… and to top that off she could move wherever she wanted (an hour or two away) and the dad could never really get to see his children.

The real diligent dads however, did drive that hour or more to make those every other weekend visits; only to find at times no one would be home; imagine the consideration of that kind of woman… but he never missed his payments (if he loved his kids).

The sad thing in all of this, over-time the kids grew to believe the dad was a bad guy b/c he didn’t spend much time with them… and the dad really didn’t know what kind of shape his kids were in…  It was a very bad system back then! 

Today, things are so much better than that of the past; because the parents in the divorce get to split time with the children (there is truly no comparison).  Meaning, little Johnny gets a week with mother and a week with dad.  Child support is not exchanged at all unless one parent makes drastically more.  This way the living situations for the children are not such an extreme from one parent to the next.  Children need the consistency of living in a similar socioeconomic class as with the other parent (when possible).   

Now-a-days parents are deemed unfit and children are removed from that situation and given custody to the other parent.  Most children I talk to today say they do have the best of both worlds having equal time with both parents. Some kids say they enjoy more time with their father since parents are divorced now than when the parents were together; since more mothers are apt to be the caregiver as a rule. 

The Words “I Love You,” are not Magical without Action

The Words “I Love You,” are not Magical without Action

Beth Corbin

I believe we are here to learn… to love.  In or through that learning we help others along the way.  I feel all things Creator breathed his breath of life into are spirit: animals, plants, people, the earth... And all deserve respect and to be loved right where they are at the time.

Of course, people are the hardest to love and be loved as we have forgotten so many things in the process of leaving he spirit realm and coming in these physical bodies.  We are spiritual beings that chose (for whatever reason) to come in to this physical condition.

So far, there are only a few people on this earth that I truly trust; and that I feel truly love me.  I try and love people right where they are; regardless of where they have been.  However, someone's history or past is what formed their foundation and has made them who they are today.  To totally ignore their past is not entirely wise.

The choice one makes always receives a consequence (negative or positive).  What goes around does come back around; though the timing is not always quick and my take years for us to experience. There is no time or space in the spirit realm, so some things do come back with an immediate repercussion.  It depends on where we are at in our thought processes.

It takes positive thoughts combined with positive feelings working with what is in our hearts to have an end result.  We are grateful for the present when we have learned lessons from our past. Learning from the past gives us freedom to be hopeful in the near future.

People tend to use words as if they matter.  Words only matter if you can follow through with your words.  This is why actions speak louder than words.  If it is in the heart, and your thoughts and feelings are aligned with it; then you will follow through with it.  We can say words to people; the true meaning and true spirit is in what we “do;” how we live, our example.

Speaking the truth means your words are in alignment with your heart and that is when you follow through with your words; and that is when you earn respect. 

Can a person overcome his/her history (past)?   Yes.  It takes time, determination, and oneness within themselves. It takes listening, and follow-through to reprogram all that past that had originally programmed them.

Many people will never be able to overcome themselves, their choices, their past; these are the same people who just stay stagnant.  They don't grow; mature mentally, their cognitive maturation just stops.  Those people do not stand for anything and they don't stand-up for you.

I frustrate myself when I know someone's past, and I see the warning signs, and I still let them in my world knowing the outcome... And that is exactly what comes to pass.  Then, hurt feelings.

You can warn people, you can tell them what needs to be done for their healing to take place; if they are not ready, if they don't have the understanding, or the willingness... Then it will not happen.

Then there are the ones that never take responsibility for anything. They blame everyone else, circumstances, and play the victim; which is disgusting in and of it because they are only fooling the self... And they cannot grow and mature due to their chosen ignorance.

Everything has to do with the mind; and we can tell our brain what to do and it works for us… the key and the connection.  This is why negative thoughts come to pass in our life physically.

Showing respect for all living things, holding thoughts captive, and reprogramming our self through prayer and meditation are key to finding balance in this realm.

We are in Creator’s love, a part of the whole, a piece of the collective if you will.  The Great Spirit is the power of all this through our inter-connective-ness. 

Everything is interconnected and it doesn’t stop when we sleep.  Our dreams are processors; pay attention to those dreams.  The old fashioned idea of someone saying a person’s name in their sleep has nothing to do with romance; does have to do with working out issues of the past, present or future. 

We agreed to come here for a reason and agreed to overcome the hurdles we chose for this journey.  The greatest gift we can give to another is sharing our time with them, learning from them, and learning to love them where they are at now… and we do this by “doing;” not throwing the words “I Love You” around like words without action are magical.

A little old time with Leo

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HCSFC3k9OQo&sns=em

I am a very blessed woman, very rich; not in the terms of money.  Thank you Creator that I am in your love!

Learning from Stories:

Learning from Stories:

This is a story from the Wicakawi Wiyan Series (A Modern Day Native Woman):
by Beth Corbin

Cade and Vette had been dating only two weeks but already Cade felt Vette might be "the one."  The relationship had been fun with dating 5 out of 7 nights each week; tonight was Wednesday and Cade's night to go out with the guys.

Vette had only asked one request of Cade in the start of their relationship: "never lie; there must always be truth if we are going to trust the other; if you lie, I am done, "she requested.  He agreed.

That Wednesday night the guys went out to a bar and grill had a meal, a couple of beers and laughed and joked most of the night.  Cade had texted Vette a few times that night and from the comments she could tell that maybe he was drinking a few and started questioning him.  The questions bothered Cade and he got a little rude with Vette and seemed to be mad at her.

The guys started teasing Cade for already being wrapped around Vette's finger and the joking continued. At some point they decided to put the joke on Vette.

Vette called Cade back several times trying to get a response since he seemed angry with no response.  She was worried and had hoped he wouldn't drink and drive.  On one last try, a man with an accent answered Cade's phone.

The man with the heavy accent explained he was a cab driver and his last fare left his phone in the seat, "if you hear from him tell him I am already on my next fare but will return his phone," he reasoned.  He continued, "The man was very drunk so he may not know I have his phone until morning." During the comment he said, "hold-on, dispatch is calling my radio," Vette could hear a muffled sound.

About 5-10 minutes later Cade called from a different number, saying it was his work cell, that he had forgotten his phone on the table at the bar and grill, and that his friend would be bringing the phone by later.  Vette told him of the cabby's call; Cade promised her he'd left the phone on the table and his friend's were just playing a joke on her.  Cade said he would get on the guys tomorrow at work for their behavior; taking no responsibility.

A few things kept bothering Vette; then she'd realized Cade had already broken his promise to her by lying.  She was very disappointed knowing Cade chose to lie and that he had made a joke out of her as she had always wanted a man who would stand up in her defense.

She tried to forgive him and their relationship continued another week or 2 more before another incident arose and she couldn't do the drama any longer... Could it have been poetic justice when Vette said another man's name in her sleep and Cade just couldn't get over it, ending it with Vette?

What was the lie(s) and what were the clues that led Vette to the truth of being the joke; can you guess?

1. Cade always wore his phone on his belt, never leaving it behind
2. Would the jokester/cabby have known Cade's password to use the phone without Cade being there or telling him?
3. When Cade had said he was calling from a work cell, Vette had programmed the number as a work number under Cade's name... A few days later she called the number and found the voicemail message of one of Cade's friends and the phone number was not Cade's work cell at all.

What is the moral of this story and what lessons can be learned to better relationships?

Demoralizing Children and Adults

Demoralizing Children and Adults

Beth Corbin

 

De·mor·al·ize:

1.  Cause (someone) to lose confidence or hope; discourage, dispirit

2. Undermine the confidence or morale of; dishearten

3.  Put into disorder; confuse, or upset the normal functioning of

4.  Debase or weaken the morals of; corrupt.

 

What causes a normal, mentally balanced, mature adult to be demoralized? 

 

I posted the definition of demoralize above.  I was recently accused of demoralizing someone when I told them the truth about the nature of their habits.  Then they wanted to sling mud to make up the difference (sad)… but it did get me thinking about the topic.

 

Can a person be demoralized if they are a normal, mentally balanced, mature adult?  Can it happen over night, in one day, one month?  The answer is No. 

 

Demoralization takes repetitiveness in a relationship, such as the workforce boss, a mentally abusive marriage partner, and is often used as a form of “control” in those types of situations.   

 

The people at high risk of falling into this category of being demoralized are people who suffer from psychosocial factors that seem to be involved; like major life stresses, especially separations, losses, and people fighting depression.  People who are already unbalanced mentally or emotionally in some way; do fall into this trap. 

 

Many times the person accusing you of demoralizing them is the one who is “controlling” you or the situation to try and “guilt” you into feeling sorry for them.  There are many people out there that play the victim role and use this tactic.

 

You have authority over yourself, always!  You choose if you are demoralized or not.

 

Children:

More commonly adults can demoralize children; if they are not careful.  Children are still finding their balance in discovering who they are, learning, growing, and are mentally vulnerable.

 

Set proper or realistic expectations, teach your child to set goals, speak encouragement by being specific and using descriptive words about the positives they are doing, teach him/her to do their own positive assessment of themselves, and encourage your child to be resilient by teaching them to solve their own problems and focus on their own strengths, and understanding that mistakes are a normal part of life and are a good thing as long as we are learning a lesson from them to better our self for the next time.

 

You can also support your child’s interests and challenge them to try.  The key is the child knows they always have choices and consequences to the choices they make.  They have authority over what they choose and need to accept the consequence of that choice. 

 

It's not as easy as it sounds and there are outside factors that will influence your children; if all goes well and they grow into a well-rounded, mentally balanced, mature adult… Woo Hoo!