First Signs in a Relationship

Meeting people on-line is no different than meeting them any where else.  The problem of all venues is that people lie, withhold the truth or believe they are someone they are not (in which case they don’t know they are lying to you).  Many people just don’t think they are a certain way. 

The best thing you can do is know what you want in a mate, think about it, and write those qualities down if you think they are important.  Listen to that voice in your head, and those that want good for you if they have concerns.                                                             

Then, wait and watch to see if the person you met has a good walk in life: their deeds, if they follow-through with their words, how they respect you and others, are there addictions, control issues, if they blame others for their troubles and what drama is there…

If they want to move too quick that is a sign to be cautious because they might be hiding some things from you, running from something, or just be desperate/lonely.                                   

Those few things will give you a world of evidence to decide if s/he might be right/good; then continue to move forward with them…but if it is not don’t waste your time and move in a different direction.

                                                                                                           

It would have been nice if I would have followed my own advice here as stated above, before meeting and marrying.  I jumped in way to quick and did not have the wisdom to use my time, observations, and intuition wisely; which led to me being in a world of deception and hurt by a con artist. I had to learn a very hard lesson in a rough way.

My hope (in learning this hard lesson) is to help myself and others from this type of mayhem in the future.

~Elizabeth Corbin