Adult Relationships and Respect

Respect is a very large topic... We will narrow the focus and write different installments:

Respect is a feeling, deep admiration, elicited by their abilities, qualities, achievements, and works of good deeds or morals, a dutiful regard for others.

Ignorance on the other hand is a lack of knowledge, education, or awareness.

So, are all these people in society showing disrespect, ignorant, or are they blatantly being rude and disrespectful? What makes us as a society allow them to get away with these negative actions as if it does not matter anymore? Have we lost so much self respect that anything goes now?

Let's look at respect amongst women: If everyone would follow this there would be no cheating! Most women are stronger than men on some levels, as women are premeditated and men tend to be more spontaneous. Spontaneity is kind of like a kid with a pocket of money in a candy store... They don't think of the long term of consequences sometime... Keeping in mind I am talking about most men; not all, there are always exceptions to every rule or statistic.

Now, if a woman knows a man is taken or has a wife, girlfriend, live-in, whatever... Then it is the responsibility of that woman to show respect to that other woman. Stay away from him, he is not yours... If every woman would do this there would be little cheating in the world, and if the man lied to you, tell!

Men can help by not making yourself available to another woman. You have a responsibility to your significant other to be committed and devoted to her. Sure you will hear sob stories and want to help some damsel in distress; don't do it, it's not your job. Sure, you might see a sexy body and wish you had that. Sure, you might see young and want that young feeling again. Sure, you might want good conversation b/c your wife is too busy with the kids... But don't do it, you have to devote yourself to who you have already chosen.

Men, "Confiding" in another woman other than your mother, sister, or blood relation... is the most hurt you can give your woman... You just gave your trust away, like breaking confidentiality to your marriage.

Making excuses does not let you off the hook, they only show you are weak minded and couldn't follow through with a commitment. Either do what is the respectful, or decide you don't love your spouse and get a divorce.

I recently heard of a case where the "other woman" is being sued by the wife for wrecking the home an the wife received millions because she proved the other woman acted willfully and set out to seduce a married man; this is called, "Alienation of Affection," and can be filed in the following states: North Carolina, Illinois, Mississippi, New Mexico, South Dakota, and Utah. What do you think; if you knew you could be sued for being interference, causing a marriage to be broken, or aiding in it not being able to be reconciled...? Would you take the chance in messing with someone's spouse?

I know I got a little side-tracked here, but the point is... It is all a disrespectful act! The respectful thing is to follow-through with your words, keep your commitments, if it doesn't belong to you, and just leave it alone. If you are in an unhappy place, communicate it to your partner, work to repair it, or divorce so you can move on... Those of you, who were never married, make sure you communicate to your significant other; you are done, before moving on.